Sexual Alchemy: Purposeful Moments of Orgasm and Ecstasy

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Sexual Alchemy: Purposeful Moments of Orgasm and Ecstasy

(Manifesting the Divinity Entrusted to Your Humanity)

By Brother Mxolisi Ozo-Sowande

 After listening to Brother Tommy and Sister Stacey present recently on “Finding Our Sacred Sexual Alchemy”, I was inspired to seek a deeper understanding of what they were sharing, in terms of their rising above and beyond the limitations (and pleasures) of physically-centered, physically-driven sexual experiences. In the process, I came across a video presentation of the late Dr. Richard King (Ase!) in whichPBR RANDOLPH he made reference to Paschal Beverly Randolph (widely known as PBR during his lifetime, October 8, 1825 – July 29, 1875) as a tremendously significant but unheralded African ancestor, without making reference to his prominence in the realm of sexuality.

 “Sex power is God power.”

Those are words that emerged from the insights and teachings of Randolph, who was a physician and spiritualist, who was said to have been the first person to bring the practical teachings of “sex magic” to the Western world; teachings designed to guide men and women to the highest levels of the positive potentials that sexual union can avail humans.

One of the major things that distinguished Randolph’s teachings from those of other leaders in the field of sex magic was his conviction about the equality of men and women when it comes to pursuing the most positive and sacred powers of human sexuality. Others held the opinion that women were merely passive vehicles for male spiritual attainment, even to the extent of viewing sex with a prostitute as an acceptable tool or avenue for that attainment.

Randolph held the following: “If a man has an intelligent and loving wife, with whom he is in complete accord, he can work out the problems by her aid . . . The rite (sexual union) is a prayer in all cases, and the most powerful [that] earthly beings can employ . . . it is best for both man and wife to act together for the attainment of the mysterious objects sought.”

Furthermore, he held, “Success in any case requires the adjuvancy (consciousness & purposeful vision) of a superior (virtuous) woman. THIS IS THE LAW! A harlot or low woman is useless for all such lofty and holy purposes, and just so is a bad, impure, passion-driven apology for a man.”

Yet further, Randolph taught: “The ejective (orgasmic) moment, therefore, is the most divine and tremendously important one in the human career . . .” He taught that it is a moment when we, as conscious and purposeful men and women of compassion and love, can launch Genius, Power, Beauty and Glory on the world’s great sea of life — in the persons of the children we may produce or in our progress toward the perfection of our oneness with one another and NTR/GOD. But those whose copulations are driven merely by selfishness and lust risk launching storms that will take them to the depths of disappoints and delusions. In Randolph’s words, “human copulation is either ascentive and ennobling, or descensive and degrading…”

“Sex power is God power.”

In that light, it seems to be of great importance that we find the ways to grow in understanding and appreciating that ecstasy/orgasm is not only physical, but is an experience that opens the gates to powerful psychological and spiritual dimensions. With the word ecstasy being derived from ex-stasis (the temporary transcendence of time, ego and our existential separateness), we need to know and revere such moments as opportunities for transcendent connection not only with another being, but with our own being and humanity. They are moments when we are taken to experience – consciously or unconsciously, with or without purpose – forces within the great sea of life that are far more powerful than our egos. What we do (or don’t do) with the energy of these moments determines who and what we become, the kind of relationships we create, and how we express ourselves in the world. And, of course, whether/how we as a species survive.

After reading through several presentations on spiritually-centered sexuality — sexual alchemy, sex magick/magic, tantric sex, and kundalini sex, often encountering concepts and ritual techniques that I felt were too complicated for a beginner like me, I came across one that resonated with the physically-oriented sexual being that I have been, and yet seemed to be in harmony with the teachings of Randolph, as I understood him. “Sex Magic for Beginners” by Skye Alexander is that presentation; to be found at the following link: http://www.llewellyn.com/journal/article/2262 .

Ms. Alexander explains that sex magic is not primarily concerned with sexual satisfaction – orgasm – but how to use “the amazing power of sexual energy to generate a desired result.” Happiness, health, wealth and spiritual enlightenment are among the goals she references.

The nature of sexual energy is to create. It creates physical children in the flesh-and-blood womb, but spiritual children in “the fertile womb of the cosmic matrix,” she asserts, with spiritual children being the happiness, health, wealth or spiritual enlightenment goals a couple might desire. Whichever “child” might be the goal, the harmonious and purposeful thoughts of the couple engaged in the union are of utmost importance.

For the “ejective moment” to be an effective sex magic moment, it is necessary for the couple to be of one heart/one mind, in terms of what they want the energy of their dynamic moment to create. Only one goal at a time; a word or thought they can hold in their minds as their ejective moment approaches and its power is unleashed; something that, perhaps, can be represented in an image or symbol on which to focus. (Alexander advises that an image or symbol can be more effective than words, because the subconscious understands “the language of symbols” better than spoken words.)

Without a doubt, it seems that the teachings and symbols of the spiritual tradition(s) of the couple can provide abundant material for spiritual enlightenment goals, in particular, as well as provide context for other goals of their desire. This is especially true for committed spouses or lovers, not casual hook ups; for relationships in which serious, open and honest communication is ongoing; relationships in which the entire spectrum of work, study, fellowship, prayer and meditation can serve as the 24/7/365 existential “foreplay” for all their sexual unions.

“Sex Power is God Power”: Copulation for Spiritual Consummation

The spiritually-centered sexual union is definitely not a “wham-bam-thank-you-sir-thank-you-ma’am” physical friction interaction. It involves techniques, skills and determination that need to be learned and practiced, so the spiritual consummation and empowerment of your goal(s) can be realized. With the “average” man needing only about 50 strokes before he ejaculates, and the “average” woman needing 10 minutes of active intercourse for conventional orgasm, there is much to learn and practice if you are to know the ecstasy, consummation and empowerment that sacred orgasm brings.

Lesson number one: You gotta slow down. Don’t let erection-ending ejaculation decide when you are done with heaven. Let it come when “that something within/between” the two of you says it is time to let it flow. With practice, that could be after an hour or two of sacred orgasm’s ecstatic embrace of the two of you.

With practice you will learn to back off — stop stroking — when you feel ejaculation on the horizon; do some deep breathing, with only an inch or so of penis remaining within vagina; look into each other’s eyes (some say it is nearly impossible for ejaculation to occur while this is done); relish in the beauty and blessedness of your oneness, while remaining aware of the goal, symbol or image which the two of you have decided to pursue in your sexual union/ritual. Resume genital stroking when “that something within/between” the two of you lets you know it is okay to do so. With practice you will grow to be able to repeat this pause and go routine, and extend your sacred orgasmic ecstasy for as long as the two of you like.

When that sacred something between the two of you says, “IT’S TIME!!”, focus on your goal and let the orgasmic energy flow – through toes and shoulders, vagina and penis, g-spot and scrotum, through the entire network of consciousness, vision, spirit and love entrusted to the two of you, and you can’t tell whose orgasm it is!! And rest assured that the energy you created has transported the goal of your focus to the womb of the matrix where a magical child is created, and the universe will do its part. Relax as the orgasmic waves subside and you enjoy your loving embrace

Cultivating the Truth, Beauty & Goodness of

Ennead Energy Entrusted to You

A similar, more intriguing “slow down” perspective is presented in “Secrets of Sexual Ecstasy: The Oriental Bedroom Art of Ejaculation Control – The Key to Female Orgasm,” by David and Linda Howe (pg. 59f.), where they communicate an ejaculation control technique that brought me to think it might be a means of cultivating and activating some measure of Ennead energy that has been entrusted unto us. They didn’t refer to it in that manner; they called it the locking method. Something within stirred me to the Ennead thought.

The locking method involves:

  • the stopping of thrusting when you first sense ejaculation approaching, and tightly squeezing the urogenital and pelvic floor muscles, including the anal muscles (“key love muscles”), as if holding them when looking for a lavatory; and leaving only about one inch of penis within the vagina;
  • drawing in a deep breath which you send down and hold in your lower abdominal area while performing nine (9) hard & rapid clenches/flexes of those key love muscles, including the buttocks;
  • using will-power to move the orgasm energy from the root of the penis and draw it into the tip of the spine (coccyx), and sending it up the spine to the neck and top of the head (realizing that orgasm energy, in this sense, means highly aroused sexual energy, not climax, not ejaculation);
  • swiveling the head slightly forward, bringing the chin toward the throat, lightly clenching the teeth and pressing the tongue against the upper palate;
  • the clenching of the fists during the nine rapid contractions of the entire pelvic region, and rolling the eyes upwards, as if looking back into the brain; imagine that you are sending the message to ejaculate from the root of the penis back to the brain. This helps to draw off some of the orgasmic pressure that would otherwise trigger the ejaculation reflex.

While this technique seems to be primarily for men, it can be used by women as well to ward off climax and extend your immersion in the flow of sacred orgasmic waves. Perhaps the nine contractions serve to arouse the nine dimensions of Ennead Energy perhaps entrusted to each of us by our Creator; energy-essence by which to share in the nature of the Divine; the Sex Power/God Power of which Randolph spoke – by which to launch Genius, Power, Beauty and Glory on the world’s great sea of life — in the persons of the children we may produce or in our progress toward the perfection of our oneness with one another and with NTR/GOD.

Let’s close with advice that Randolph gave to those who chose to pursue sex magic under his guidance (paraphrased):

Constantly expand your intellectual horizons, learning as much as you can about everything there is to know across the broad spectrum of realities in our world, including personal self-knowledge and the teachings of the spiritual tradition to which you are devoted. Work on developing intelligent insights and perspectives which will allow pro-active and effective actions or responses to flow from you, as forcefully as circumstances require, yet in a self-disciplined and unemotional manner.

On that pro-active intellectual foundation, develop within yourself the most formidable force of which a human is capable — the capacity to give unavoidable, dictator-like orders. Aimed first and foremost at yourself, these must be orders for the pursuit and perpetuation of the greatest good for anyone or anything to be affected by the actions that those orders command or require.

Finally: Do not continue these practices if you experience anguish or nervous fear.

Ankh, Udja, Seneb !!!

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(For a profound and fascinating array of insights from the Tantra Sexual tradition, visit this web site: http://www.mcs.ca/vitalspark/2010_conciousness/208ta00.html#top             there you will find * Sacred Sex – A Path of Union * Tantra Sacred Loving Step by Step * How to Make First Sex Fabulous Sex * Freeing the Female Orgasm * Simple Techniques for Mastering Ejaculation * and more!)  You must, must visit this web site!!! Do yourself and your lover a BIG favor!!!

(For a free download of “Sexual Magic” book by  Paschal Beverly Randolph [164 pages] visit this site: Randolph_Paschal_Beverly_-_Sexual_Magic – HIGH …) 

(Find the David & Linda Howe article/booklet, “Secrets of Sexual Ecstasy”, at the following site: http://www.whale.to/a/howe_b.html)

 

 

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