Dealing with Change

Posted on March 5, 2011 by


“Do not believe in that which comes to your imagination, thinking that it must be the revelation of a superior Being. Believe nothing that binds you to the sole authority of your masters or priests. That which you have tried yourself, which you have experienced, which you have recognized as true, and which will be beneficial to you and to others; believe that, and shape your conduct by it.” (The Buddha)

How to deal with Change

By Amenseph JP Wks

So often people say they want change, but what they actually want are the positive results and feelings that they will have after the change happens, rather than to take the tough actions that the implementation of change requires.

So what is it about change that is so tough?  Let’s look at three of the usual suspects – uncertainty, confusion, and attachment.

Uncertainty – being in doubt; hesitance; lack of assurance.

Confusion – being in disorder; state of or act of bewilderment; chaos.

Attachment – being attached to; something fastened to; emotional ties.

(Chaos – Is the opposite of order, that which prevails only under circumstances designed for it.  When one with power appears, chaos is subdued.  When chaos is tamed by order it manifests in the form of a Wide Awake Human Being.)

In the midst of uncertainty and confusion, we arrive at “well, the devil we know is better than the devil we don’t” – i.e. attachment to how things are. The fear of moving into the unknown can often be paralyzing because we tend to hesitate when we do not know what to expect OR, just as often, we don’t want to move forward unless the outcome is likely to be 100% on our own terms or acceptance.

As long as you resist change and remain in the place of anger and disruption, newness and growth – change — will be non-existent. To embrace change in a healthier way it is important to move forward, where pessimism and resistance give way to optimism and acceptance.

So, where do we go from here?

There must be a commitment or re-committing to goals; clarity and conviction regarding the need for change.

There must be resolutions. Resolve that progress will be made. Acknowledge your fear about change, and your ego’s involvement in holding on to the status quo, but know that the status quo needs to be challenged. Move forward.

Five Building Blocks of Transformative Change

Awareness – Meaning how aware are you of your own self (understanding how you think and behave and come to believe what you do), as well as how others come to think, feel and act the way they do.

Core Thoughts – Meaning that you are driven by consciously chosen values, guiding principles and beliefs that focus your attention immediately on solutions, on taking responsibility, on moving forward, on helping others and in seeing the purpose in all situations.  When you experience challenges, check and shift your core thoughts to drive permanent and powerful changes.

Holistic Perspective – Meaning that you know that any situation or person is conditioned and impacted by more than just what you can see in front of you. There are contributing factors that affect how people respond and react to things around them. The whole view or bigger picture must be looked at to understand the context of a singular situation.

Engagement – Meaning being focused, committed, dedicated and enthusiastic about the task you’re looking to undertake or achieve.  It means being energetically committed, on all levels, to drive forward for what you want.  Engagement is directly tied to productivity, performance, innovation and ultimately profitability.

Capacity – Meaning that you are constantly stretching your capabilities and comfort levels, and learning to exercise and build significantly stronger abilities, so that projects and circumstances that were once stressful and difficult are now easy, second nature and rewarding.